I once read a quote that said something like: “If you’re walking down the street feeling like people can see right through you, you’re doing it right.”
Meaning, as I interpret it, that living life without having our armor(s) on, shows us that we’re on the path of living life authentically and vulnerably. That we are open to showing the world, who we really are. Well, for those momentary connections with people we’re just passing by on the street, or handing our money to in the grocery store, it might be more about the openness to reveal our current emotional state.
I might feel raw and unprotected at times, but the experience of someone stepping on me when in a vulnerable state has been rare. Mostly I’ve noticed, that people who actually are choosing that brief moment of eye contact (many don’t) are reflecting back to me what I radiate. If I have a happy day, I am met with smiles. If I feel annoyed, people might look at me with a frown. If I feel sad, people look at me with soft eyes.
Isn’t that amazing?
This all happens in the fraction of a second. Same emotional states, but if for some reason, I am wearing an armor, I am missing out on those short moments of genuine connections. The second of eye contact becomes nothing more than an acknowledgement that we’ve noticed each other. More often than not however, we’re not even looking at each other.
On some days I don’t feel resilient enough to walk around unprotected. Letting the armor stay in the wardrobe on those days, requires awareness. It’s so easy to put one on. I try to remind myself to choose putting a blanket around me instead. A soft blanket of self compassion.
Or maybe a poncho – aren’t they in fashion again? A soft, warm colorful poncho of self compassion… Wow, I might be ready to leave the house!